We all love to be part of something. We long to be among a group.
We want to hang out with our favourite person.
Like me, I could stay indoors for days without stepping out as long as I have food, water, gadgets and internet.
But still, I miss my friends.
I want you in my space but I don’t want you to stay long enough for me to get tired of you.
I know you can relate to this. We want to attend that event. Immediately you get there, you are already thinking about getting home to your personal space.
Today’s letter is a continuation of our Power Series.
At least not the Power TV Series. I am no ghost. If you want to see me, come find me.
Let me round up what I started here.
As much as you love your personal space, there is the need to surround yourself with people of power. There is a need to build your network with solid contacts.
I read or listened to someone say if you’ve stayed in a place for more than 2 years and you don’t have any artisan’s contact or how you can get one, you are doing something wrong.
Hi Friend,
I have given you a glimpse of what we will be talking about today.
Power isn’t politics. We’ve cleared that.
Power is having the ability to do something when you need to do it with ease.
I will continue from the quote I mentioned up there.
Having a Plumber’s contact when you need it is power.
As little as having that contact, you might think it’s something small till you need someone to fix a leaking or clogged pipe in your house.
Having the number of a friend who can help you move between apartments is power.
Having someone to do life with is power. (as long as they bring you ease)
If you are visiting a new country or state, having someone who can link you to someone to make your stay blissful is a power.
Social power is having someone around your network who can easily give you access to what you need without having to sweat it.
You see all those friends that have a connection in a Government house or have a connection in an Oil company. They had social power or their parents did.
Have you ever been in a place with so much cue or process and you just wish you knew someone there or who you could call to make it easy?
Sometimes, you even start racking your brain to think of anyone you know who can help you.
It simply means you don’t have social power in that area.
There are levels to this social power. I am sure our parents had social power. But unfortunately not with the people with high status in the social realm.
The level of your social power and that of your kids or generations to come will depend on the calibre of men and women you keep around you.
You have to intentionally know the kind of life you want (Purpose).
Then you intentionally surround yourself with the best people that you would need to attain that purpose.
Surround yourself with doctors, lawyers, writers, designers, developers, bankers etc.
You know who you need.
This is the first way to get Social Power, by association.
The second way is to have it for yourself.
Having social power means you can easily attract people of value to yourself.
This power comes by position and title.
It comes through becoming a leader.
You have to work and rise to this level.
Some are cut out for this, while others are not.
But those with social power through title and position sometimes have automatic access to social power by association.
You have to intentionally know the kind of life you want (Purpose).
Then you intentionally find positions you can fill or rise to, to attain this power.
For some, it might be in politics, for others their company, for others social good, for others in their town or village, for others it’s a church or the community they belong to.
You have to ensure you pick the one you want to give your all to and stay there.
Let me share how you can build your social power.
How do you associate with People with Social Power?
- By attending events.
- By collecting contacts.
- By intentionally giving value and keeping in touch.
How do you rise to being someone with Social Power?
- By becoming a person of value.
- By taking up a position of leadership.
- By building something great.
- By giving out value for free or a discount.
This is work. Work you have to do.
This is something I am working on too.
I am not 100% there.
Every letter I share here is not from the position of a maestro, but that of a sojourner just like yourself sharing his journey with friends.
I hope you learned something new today.
We should all do life with intentionality.
Ask questions like, why am I being friends with this person?
Why am I applying for this job? Why am I joining this community?
Why am I living in this area? Why am I buying this?
All these questions will provide answers that align with our purpose and give clarity to our daily lives.
I will be writing to you again.
Talk soon, Friend.
Action Steps
- Attend events.
- Seek contacts or leadership positions you can fill.
- By intentionally giving value and keeping in touch.
This Week’s Ponder
Here is something you should brood over for the week.
“For each headache you face, ask yourself, “Is this mostly real or mostly imagined?”
Is this problem really worth a headache?
What am I Reading?
Still reading: Marketing by Patrick Forsyth
What am I Watching?
Here is the series I am currently seeing:
Breaking Bad & Alexander the Great
Finished Watching – Prophet Suddenly (Youtube)
What am I Selling?
Why haven’t you purchased any of my books?
The 3 poetry books together are N1,000 each.
Are you that broke? (wink)
poems you can share to woo your loved ones are here
Get my Cheap Poetry Books – CLICK HERE
Write your Book with Ease – CLICK HERE
What am I Listening to?
I curated a playlist of love songs – LISTEN HERE
I will definitely be adding more – so save the playlist.
